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With so many changes going on in your life and body it’s important to take charge of the process and maintain a level of control in your life. Finding ways to empower yourself is essential to managing these changes and the key to this is to first eliminate your inner doubts.

The problem with self doubt is it usually happens on an unconscious level.  Following these steps to pinpoint the hidden enemies which have been holding you back is a great place to start uncovering them.  After all, if you are not aware of why you are doing something, how can you expect to be able to change it?

I have put together this exercise for you to look at ways to identify your Self-Doubt.

Exercise 1

The first stage of self-doubt is awareness.  First take a pen and paper and create a table like the one shown below and spend some time filling in the sections looking at the positives and negatives of your self-doubt behaviour.  Please complete the two areas until you can no longer think of anything to add, then that is the time to compare the two sides.

Think of a project you wish to tackle.

For this example I am using returning to the workforce after the children have left or got their independence.

Positive Negative
Independence Exposed
Income Not enough time for the garden
Possibly learn new skills Not enough time for family
Feeling useful No longer in my comfort zone
Communication with others How will I learn after all this time
Money for an over seas trip Not have anything in common
How will I cope

What similarities do they have?

For example: Feeling unsure – awareness of self doubt – this is natural as it has been a long time since I was in the work force, if ever… how will I cope…

Is there any positive or negative that weigh more heavily than the others?

Is there an overall theme that you notice with the positives and negatives?

Yes… How will I cope & I will be out of my comfort zone…

Exercise 2

Now let’s dig a little deeper in considering your own self-doubt behaviour.  What is it that happens / happened when you start to doubt yourself?

My self doubt convinces me to put project aside and do it later…

What excuses did you find or develop to create the reason or justification in your mind for what you chose to do?

  • I am happy at home
  • Who would want me
  • It’s too late to teach an old dog new tricks
  • I don’t really need the money

What is it you really fear?

The unknown?

We often fear that things will change too much so we go back into the safety of ‘what we know’ what is familiar to us and retreat to our comfort zones.

What does retreating to your comfort zone give you?

Security but limited choices and limited growth…

How is your comfort zone working for you?

Review your initial reasons for your self doubt – review these every day upon waking – this is your focus – what you focus on is what you get – it is entirely up to you!

For example:  I am working to pay for that trip that my husband and I can go on now that the children can look after themselves.

Every morning say an affirmation while looking into a mirror and believe it: eg
“This job is good for me, I am meeting new people and I can do the work.  The money I earn will pay for the little extras we need for our trips”

As you identify your self doubts and the key thought processes that are likely to hold you back from expanding and strengthening your mind you will become more and more aware of the amazing opportunities that are constantly surrounding you and if you’re interested in exploring the benefits of becoming an Artos Woman just contact us today

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